Kol Nidre
Tzedakah
This evening I had planned turn to the final ingredient of this iconic and redeeming Jewish High Holyday triumvirate – Tzedakah
Alas, from poet Robert Burns, The best-laid plans of mice and….people often go awry.
And, as I believe every rabbi will fess up as they imagine and create HH sermons to engage their congregations, we never know if it’s the right one. On that note, allow me to begin (and digress) with a story told by a Florida colleague just this past RH:
A man and his grandson were traveling in the countryside. The grandson was traveling on the back of a donkey and the grandfather was leading the animal. As they walked, they came across a passerby, who chided them, saying that it’s not right that the young child should ride and that the old man should be made to walk. So, they switched places. The old man rode the donkey and the young man led it by its lead. They walked along a little further and came across another passerby, who said: Ach, you’re foolish – there’s more than enough room for both of you to ride that animal. So, the grandson and the grandfather rode the donkey together. They traveled on a little longer and came to another passer-by who chided them and said: Ach, those two healthy people are making that animal work, so the grandson and the grandfather got off and they carried the donkey. They came to a river. However, they lost their footing and slipped and the donkey drowned. The moral of the story, friends, is that if you try to please everyone, you end up losing your ass. (You know this language came from someone else!!)
So, last Monday, I decided to scrap, if you will, my first (and completed) sermon on tzedakah in face of the latest and very personal assault in Laconia on our communal Jewish identity and in particular the targeting of one of our own. (and by the way, these were my very first words of last year’s Kol Nidre”s sermon, October 4, 2022: “Forgive me, but tonight I must talk about the elephant in the room, the act of vandalism and mockery and hate that happened in this town, in your community, on a Sabbath eve, two days before Rosh Hashanah.” But that was last year.) In any case, I had an “aha” moment” — to look at the original topic through a different lens. On these HH days we engage in teshuvah and tefilah primarily for our own benefit, to renew our souls and vow to be and behave better in the year to come. Tzedakah is a different animal. Tzedakah comes from Tzedek – righteousness, a trait which is all about our behavior and treatment towards others, that is, we cannot fulfil this commandment all by ourselves nor for ourselves. Tzedakah is the Jewish imperative to give charity to those less fortunate, and, also, to enable others in all ways to live their life with enough to eat, with shelter, with dignity and in safety. The other cognate of tzedakah is the one who engages in it – the tzaddik, the righteous one who aspires to do the right thing.
Sadly, when it comes to human relations in this moment in time, and in the words of Rabbi Debbi Till in her RH sermon on Decency, she offers: “We are instead far more accustomed to things like, polarized and vitriolic political debates, contentious and ugly community meetings, gun violence in our nearby neighborhoods and beyond, at houses of worship, supermarkets, concerts, and schools –attacks on a woman’s ability to make choices about her own body, and people assaulted for their religion, race, gender identity, or sexual identity. It is against this horrid backdrop to which we have largely become inured, that the prophets recognized two and a half millennia ago, exhorting us to wipe out corruption, oppression, and ignorance from our midst.”
We are as Rabbi Daniel Levin says, “…. losing our capacity for care and love and empathy, we are losing our commitment to civility, honesty, and integrity – we are losing our sense of decency and it is tearing our society apart.”
While there are some who believe that these are especially awful and unprecedented times, that the lid has been taken off some hitherto non-existent box of hatred, we know that generations before us, for the same reasons and for altogether different ones, have said the exact same thing.
That said, Rabbi Lord Jonathan Sacks of blessed memory writes about the unique challenges of our time: “the four great institutions of the modern West are science, technology, the market economy, and the liberal democratic state. Science tells us how, but not why. Technology gives us power, but cannot tell us how to use that power. The market gives us choices but does not tell us which choices to make. The liberal democratic state - as a matter of principle - holds back from endorsing any particular way of life. The result is that contemporary culture sets before us an almost infinite range of possibilities, but does not tell us who we are, why we are here, and how we should live.
Religion in general attempts to address these questions, for sure, but I’d like to think that the Jewish concept of tzedakah encapsulates these existential questions and offers a way forward.
Tzedakah and its cognates may actually be the most important path as we engage in Teshuvah, atonement, and tefillah, intense prayer. tzedakah, translated in our prayer book as “righteous giving” is so much more. My words to you are not really about giving because you are all such generous givers of your time, your talent, and whatever treasure you have to give, but rather the Jewish nature of tzedakah, balancing your life with giving, and how to prioritize giving, giving of yourselves, giving of your voice and standing up for your beliefs and values for the sake of justice, and ensuring that the people and the institutions we love survive and thrive, our own and those of our beloved communities and country.
Tzedakah is about cultivating a heartfelt intention to seek a life of meaning outside of ourselves. Victor Frankl of blessed memory, concentration camp survivor and eminent psychologist taught in his famous treatise, Man’s Search for Meaning, that we make life meaningful by looking beyond ourselves to relationships with others and the greater community, and by fulfilling responsibilities, those assigned to us, and those we take upon ourselves because we see a need. Frankl believed that accomplishing a purposeful task or responding to the words or needs of another human being made life meaningful, even under conditions of extreme discomfort, deprivation, and dehumanization. He saw our internal well-being as an outgrowth of our relations with others. His unexpected analogy is in the human eye. When it works properly, it looks outward. When it sees itself, as when covered with a cataract, it does not perform its task. He concludes that the eye must gaze beyond itself in order to advance the spirit.
The great Hasidic master Rabbi Simcha Bunim said there are three different ways of giving tzedakah: (1)the act of giving to benefit an individual or a community or cause. This type of tzedakah refers the person who gives because it's a commandment, an obligation; (2)the second type refers to the person who gives because their heart is moved. Empathy—they intuitively sense what is needed; (3)and the third type refers to the person who is resistant, doesn't even feel the obligation of the commandment. And from that person you simply have to take their money. Allow me to reframe Bunin’s typology in the context of acting the role of a Tzaddik because we should and because we need to teach others to be Tzaddikim as well. The first giver is called by their faith in a beneficent God and God’s faith in humankind. The second giver rises to the occasion, sees a need, and steps up to help. That person doesn’t live by the “my win/your loss” principle, but rather “your win is my win” and vice versa. The third giver finally brings us to the sermon topic.
I’m not sure I agree with Rabbi Bunin. How can one forcibly take another’s material possessions, albeit for a great cause, and expect to imbue that person with the meaning and purpose of tzedakah? How can we turn the heart of that person from ignorance, indifference, and the absence of empathy and compassion for another human? And, here we are definitely talking about antisemitism here!
There are also givers who never say no when asked, but may not really feel like giving to a certain cause nor believe in it. Regarding this kind of giver, and in the context of fundraising, researcher Adam Grant studied those who are in call centers, a pretty tough way to make some money for an organization. What he found is, that if the person making the call has personally experienced that the money they are requesting is going to scholarships to help people who otherwise could not afford schooling, or towards medical research of a disease personally endured by the caller, that it dramatically boosts their ability to make the case and their desire to make the call. The caller’s authenticity and personal relationship to the cause—about who will benefit from the giving, influences those being asked, upping the success of the whole project. Grant writes that this is an example of how giving to others can really be transformative. How can we make generosity our default setting? Our Days of Awe culminating on Yom Kippur give us a loud message, through the shofar calls, that people can be transformed.
In the language of civil society, we might call this transformation a practice in restorative justice.
Let’s review what’s going on around us, what is happening, and what is missing, with regards to Tzedek – often translated as justice.
The Anti-Defamation League has just reported that New Hampshire recorded in 2022 300% more incidents of bias and hate crimes against Jews than the year before. Sadly, we are witnesses to and now victims of these incidents.
Our children, Jewish and non-Jewish live in an age of social media, where they are constantly bombarded by cyberbullying and hate speech of all kinds. Although not local, my son in Toronto reports that he lives around the corner from a public middle school that was under investigation last year after two students depicted swastikas and gave a Heil Hitler salute in front of their classmates. And while that school acted swiftly and seriously in its handling of the case, turning the incident into an opportunity for education and awareness-raising among its whole student body, he wonders if that will always be the case.
I note here that the Chair of the school board of the Laconia school district was present at Mayor Andrew Hosmer’s rapid response meeting last Tuesday and shared her commitment to bring back to her cohort a mandate for lessons of inclusivity, respect, and acceptance of all to teachers and students, especially the very young whose open and curious minds have not yet been exposed to the bias and hateful rantings all over social media.
Last Thursday, the National Security Community Network in partnership with the Major Cities Chiefs of Police Association and the FBI reported on a webinar (that many here may have attended) on the uptick of swatting and bomb threats to synagogues across the United States during this high holiday season. For those who may not be in the know yet, swatting are calls made by extremist groups and individuals, often between the ages of 14 and 17, having been radicalized on online chats, directly to law enforcement agencies reporting false threats to local synagogues, resulting in an immediate response by police that disrupts worship services, often prompting evacuations and trauma for congregants. For me, the takeaway was preparedness and the ability to stay calm, but never complacent. I don’t know how many people were on the webinar, but the 120 questions recorded on the Q and A function reflected the seriousness of these threats, which are only increasing in number.
And there was the clergy call from President Biden a day before Rosh Hashanah, a ritual that stems from the Presidency of George Bush (I think). The call is to Jewish clergy from all the movements and denominations, probably the only event that crosses the divide. I was not on the call this year, but do know that President Biden’s primary message was to passionately condemn antisemitism in every form and list all the ways his administration is combatting it. I’m sure the president’s speech writers had a hand in his polished remarks. That said, President Biden offered from the heart (so I read) that he decided to run for President because after the 2017 Right the Might rally in Charlottesville, his grandson confronted him with “You can’t allow this to happen – what are you going to do about it?”
I thought that question was for me, right now, and for all of us. We may not be able to successfully change another person, but we can transform and amplify our intentions and actions. I was directed this week to the Southern Poverty Law website and their guide to responding to hate in all its ugly forms – through positive and hopeful attitudes and actions. There is no other way – even for law enforcement officials, whose sole intention in our vulnerability is to protect us.
The center charges us to become an activist against hate, just as we are against crime. Never miss sharing the “good news” as ordinary people discover unique ways to promote tolerance. Keep in mind the greater impact of hate crimes and bias incidents—they don’t just victimize individuals; they torment communities. When someone scrawls threatening graffiti, everyone in the community may feel frightened and unsafe, along with the targeted person or group. Publicly support the mayors, police chiefs, school principals, local clergy, business leaders, and others who are addressing the causes of hate and bias incidents and helping the community to learn and heal. When our local elected officials issue statements against hate, it's not just platitudes — it unifies our community and promotes tolerance. Silence, on the other hand, can be interpreted as the acceptance of hate. Our local multi-cultural festival is such an effective tool in bringing together people from different backgrounds and belief systems and providing a safe space to share thoughts and get to know each other. We can create these gatherings on a miniature scale regularly to break bread together with no agenda, no speakers, just for the sake of making new friends. It works.
And, finally—no surprise. Our children are our future hope. The center describes what we already know: Bias is learned in childhood. By age 3, children can be aware of differences. By age 12, they can hold stereotypes about ethnic, racial, and religious groups. Because stereotypes underlie hate, tolerance education is critical. Schools are an ideal environment to counter bias because they mix children of different backgrounds, place them on equal footing, and allow one-on-one interaction. Children also are naturally curious about people who are different. We know that children learn from the language we use and the attitudes we model. If we demonstrate a deep respect for other cultures, races, faiths, and walks of life, they most likely will, too.
To honor my parents and grandparents, who insisted that this country was a goldena medina of freedom and opportunity, even in the worst of times, I refuse to lose hope that the future, nearer or a little further away will bring us closer to a reality, at least in this country, when antisemitic tropes, both the words and the acts, will diminish and disappear because our citizens will figure out that we all need each other to survive and thrive. Is this not the foundational principle articulated in George Washington’s letter to the members of Touro Synagogue in Rhode Island in 1790. His famous dictum that “the Government of the United States gives to bigotry no sanction, and to persecution no assistance” established a precedent for protecting religious liberty and pluralism in the United States. Where did we go wrong?
As our High Holyday prayer implies, tzedakah as justice and righteousness can diminish the harshness of the decree, and I solemnly believe has the power to change the lives of its recipients and, also those who are the givers.
This kind of tzedakah, that is, walking the path of tzedek, of righteousness and compassion for that which is greater than ourselves, has to do, in the end with stepping up for the greater good, for our congregation and for our neighbors outside the congregation. To each of you, your skills, passions, creativity, and connections are sacred offerings in the same way that we offer our prayers to God, not necessarily to enact a different outcome, but to find purpose and meaning and even more dignity for ourselves as humans. Remember, according to the Jewish legend of the 36 Righteous individuals, the 36 tzaddikim, who will redeem the world of its imperfections. . . . at any given moment, we don’t know who they are as their descriptors are entirely internal. Thus, it could be any one of you. As a potential tzaddik, you are each called upon to give of yourself, and, also receive the righteous acts of each other. We can only fulfill this kind of tzedakah when each of us is present, has a voice, shares our story, practices our compassion and even our ability to forgive those who have harmed us when they fulfil their teshuvah.
The prophet, Isaiah declares
Tziyon b’mishpat tipadeh; v’shaveha bitzdakah (1:28)
Zion will be redeemed by justice; and those who have atoned in righteousness.
and
V’haya maasei hatzdakah hashalom v’avodat hatzdakah….ad olam (32:17)
For the act of righteousness will bring peace
And the work of righteousness is everlasting.
May our prayers this Yom Kippur be for the health and welfare of each of you and for our congregation together. May we go from strength to strength through and with the righteous acts of involvement, of tzedakah, from each of you.
K’tiva v’chatima tova – May you be written and sealed l’tova for good – in the year ahead. Amen.